Here are some things I have learned through other people's breakups and divorces 1. Don't have unrealistic expectations for the person you marry, let them surprise you. It is not their job to fulfill you, give you babies, or make you happy. 2. Show your kids how much you love them by putting your spouse first. 3.Don't marry someone just so you can sleep with them. 4.Don't expect your spouse to be able to read your mind. 5. Share how you feel several times a day, even when you don't want to. Encourage them to do the same. 6. Don't try to live up to the cultural expectations of marriage. 7. Always be willing to try. 8. Believe that people can and will change.